Marriage and the Collapse of God’s Best

Craig HueyChurch, Culture, Marriage3 Comments

Marriage and the Collapse of God’s Best

As a singles pastor 20 years ago, I saw the destruction—spirit, soul, and body—of disregarding God’s word on sex and marriage.

I saw it much too often.

The trend since then has been getting worse and worse.

  • Nearly 7 in 10 teens believe in living together without getting married.
  • Half of teens with a religious background support two people living together before getting married.

Today, many couples, not a few, and who are active in your church, choose to live in this disobedience to Biblical instruction and values.

Remember, God’s wisdom is not man’s wisdom or respected by the culture.

God's plans for marriage (Credit: The End of America)

God’s plans for marriage (Credit: The End of America)

What God’s Word says is not “legalism” or “old fashioned”, but rather:

  1. For our protection
  2. For our benefit

It’s God’s grace.

God is a loving Father who knows His children … and He wants the best for them (Psalm 103:5)

His rules on marriage are a guide to successful relationships and our safeguard against divorces, disease, and death.

God warned Jerusalem that the sins of the people would lead to her demise:

“Woe to the bloody city, to the pot whose scum is therein, and whose scum is not gone out of it! bring it out piece by piece; let no lot fall upon it.” (Ezekiel 24:6)

Think about it.

When a cooking pot is corroded, nothing put inside it is edible.

Sex outside of marriage poisons what it touches and ruins what could be a beautiful, God-given gift.

If we are obedient to Christ with our relationships and glorify him with our thoughts and actions, He will bless you far above any temporary happiness that sexual immorality could ever provide.

What are your thoughts about Christian couples who live together without getting married? Email me at

3 Comments on “Marriage and the Collapse of God’s Best”

  1. I would advise against it, because if you don’t know her well enough already in order to decide to get married, and find out she is not for you and want her to move out, you may find your hands full with a world of trouble, a scary place to be with an angry and crazy woman. I say you should be real sure you know each other well first, and then get married before moving in together. However, with the way our laws are today, heavily influenced toward the woman and leaving the guy with no rights, an assumption of guilt, a homeless pauper renting a room, and working for her still after a divorce, I would advise a mutually agreed upon marriage contract, to wit, a corporation, which is essentially what a marriage is, with a detailed agreement of the manner of dissolution, should it come to that.

  2. People live for the things of the world. That includes sex. Sex ruins people’s lives outside of marriage and sometimes in marriages when it is outside the law of God. That includes christians and nonchristians alike. I see this happening all the time. Sex is a good thing given to a male and female in the bonds of marriage. Unfortunately it has become “the lust of the flesh” christians are being warned about in 1 John 2 listed here. God’s word is righteous and good.

    1 John 2:15-17
    Do not love the world nor the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
    For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world.
    The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever.

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